Well, I was actually going to post that you had been accepted back. But unfortunately you shot yourself in the foot here.
Originally you had the votes to be unbanned, but the fact that you seem to be defending your actions by splitting hairs and pulling the semantics card, you lost the votes needed.
Your actions squarely fell under gender and sexual discrimination. Which, if you read the definition Elle so lovingly provided us, you will see falls under the umbrella of being a bigot. I'm sorry if you didn't like the word we used in your ban message, but the idea is the same. Using intolerant language like that is unacceptable here. If you had just owned up to what you had said, apologized and accepted it. You would have been allowed a second chance.
Good luck on your future endeavors. I hope you learn the consequences that come with the words you choose.